I received an email from a coworker today with the quote, “A goal is not a plan and a goal without a plan is called a wish” in his signature. He had it on his email because he’s dissatisfied with the lack of a plan for the direction of our company and he’s trying to make a point with every email he sends. I feel like I should adopt that quote as my own personal motto because it might help people to understand why I obsess over things. That quote perfectly sums up my outlook on life. I get so frustrated just “talking” about things – I always want a plan of action for getting things done!
I’m not sure that Alex completely understands that about me yet. He gets frustrated that I “obsess” over things (ahem, baby) and I guess I’m not communicating to him what I need. I don’t NEED to get pregnant RIGHT NOW, but what I NEED is a PLAN to make sure that happens in a reasonable time frame. I unfortunately am not a person who can be content with a “someday” answer. “Someday” to me always sounds like a “No”. (It’s like that Jack Johnston song, Flake: “It seems to me that maybe, pretty much always means ‘no’.”) So when I get a “Someday” type answer, I tend to keep bringing the issue up until I’m content that we’ve established a plan to make the goal a reality.
I love to plan and to have something to look forward to (like, right now, it’s killing me to not have a countdown ticker to something on the side of my blog) and I tend to apply goals and plans to every aspect of my life. When I come into work, I always sit down first thing and figure out my goals and priorities for the day. Even on weekends, I sit down at my computer and figure out everything that I’d like to get done – all the chores and fun things – and create a to-do list for the weekend. I feel lost without a plan – chaotic.
Actually, I’m not sure that I even completely understood that about myself before I started writing this. I mean, I knew that I need a plan at work and when I sat down on weekends and wrote out a to-do list for myself I realized that it was not necessarily a normal action. But I didn’t ever apply that to why I obsess over bigger things, like our debt, getting a house, and having a baby. These are all things that we’ve had discussions over and that I’ve always found myself exclaiming at one point or another, “things don’t just happen, you have to make them happen!” So even though we’d have discussions about the big, important things and talk about what we wanted to do, I’d still leave the discussion feeling a bit dissatisfied. So that’s it. I guess I figured out what I need in life to be happy – a plan.
Oh goody. Now I get to go home and talk to Alex about all those lovely fun subjects again and harass a plan out of him. He probably deserves sainthood for putting up with me.
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hey dude. yeah im the same way though. i like to have a plan in mine. But I guess I shouldnt talk right now since I keep giving scott the “someday” line about babies. I kind of am waiting for the urge to like really hit me. I have baby fever alot but it goes away after awhile. But im the same way you are about plans. I wrote out lists and to do stuff and what i need to get done and im better when i have a time line in mind. Just means we like organization!